When I think of
deadlines I think of rushing, impatience and challenges. While it’s good to
have deadlines sometimes, it can also be draining mentally to try to complete
them before a certain time. After talking to my best friend about her
relationship, she told me she mentally gave her boyfriend a deadline of when
she needs to be engaged. Knowing she has a deadline made me think; do I need
deadlines? Should I even consider a deadline? Do I need a deadline in my
relationship? All these came to one answer: no.
In the past I’ve
given myself a deadline such as graduating college by 35 and that hasn’t
happened so I decided to stop giving myself deadlines. Instead I decided to have
goals, something to reach and strive for. A couple of goals I have are to get
my degree in English Literature, to one day write a book, and to just be happy.
Life is difficult enough without all the pressure of a ‘deadline’. I see the
pros and cons of having a deadline as well as goals but it’s better than having
nothing at all.
Deciding what’s
right for you is your decision and no one else’s. It’s a decision I don’t take
lightly. Sometimes you can’t rush what you want… it comes when it comes. You
can’t force something either…it will happen if it’s meant to be. Regardless if
you decide that you rather have a deadline or a goal it’s something to strive
for. One of my other goals was to start a blog and what do you know.
-Melissa